Ricky Martin says coming out gay is a “spiritual” process that cannot be forced.

The 38-year-old father of twin boys Valentino and Matteo appeared Friday on the Ellen DeGeneres Show.

In his memoir titled Me!, Martin talks about his March decision to come out gay.

“I think that everyone has to go through their own process,” he told his host. “When you're not ready, you're not ready. You have to go through a spiritual path. It doesn't mater if it takes you 10, 15 years since the moment you realize where you understand who you are. You cannot be forced.”

Martin also addressed the recent spate of gay teens bullied to death.

“Children are being bullied because they are gay and they are committing suicide. Children are committing suicide because they are being outed. If you're not ready, you're just not ready.” (The video is embedded in the right panel of this page.)

Martin has been crowned Entertainer of the Year in gay glossy Out's annual list of most compelling gay people of 2010.