For a movie as plot heavy as The
Opposite Of Sex, I spent remarkably little time thinking about that
plot. Though it has twists & turns galore it's always easy
enough to follow, and in any case it's not really the point of the
story. Instead, the film exists as a showcase for its characters.
Their personalities and behavior – and what they end up saying
about the nature of human relationships – are what make the film so
entertaining and worthwhile to watch. (Well, that and the
considerable humor of this well-crafted comedy.)
The prime mover of it all – as well
as the narrator – is Deedee (Christina Ricci), a brash, politically
incorrect, exasperatingly cynical sixteen year old girl who
manipulates, uses, and takes advantage of people with a casual aplomb
that many who are twice her age would envy. The simple explanation
would be that she's just a little bitch with a rather – pardon the
expression – trailer parkish outlook on life. But there are
indications, in Ricci's acting, in the narration, and in the plot
itself, that maybe there are some understandable reasons for why she
turned out this way. As well as some indications that perhaps she
could become more. (Though as narrator, Deedee does tell us that
she's not going to grow a heart of gold by the end of the movie, so
we shouldn't hold our collective breath waiting.)
Upon the death of her hated stepfather,
Deedee leaves her mother and goes to visit Bill (Martin Donovan), her
openly gay, thirty-something half-brother, whom she hasn't seen in
forever. Bill is a high school teacher whose twenty-something
live-in boyfriend Matt (Ivan Sergei) is hot and fairly nice, but
none-too-bright. Watching over Bill & Matt is Lucia (Lisa
Kudrow), a colleague of Bill's and the sister of his dead lover Tom.
(Tom died some time ago of complications due to AIDS. Bill
eventually managed to move on and met Matt. Lucia has hovered over
Bill like a mother hen, ever since.)
This all just sets the stage. The meat
of the plot is as follows. (Skip the next paragraph, if you want it
all to be a surprise.)
Deedee seduces Matt (who, it turns out,
is bisexual), tells him she's pregnant with his baby – though he
thought they'd used protection...? – and convinces him to leave
with her, after getting him to steal some money from Bill “for the
baby”. Unknown to Matt, she also takes Tom's ashes, as leverage to
get more money from Bill later on. To complicate matters, we find
that Deedee really is pregnant, though whether the father is (a) her
previous boyfriend (who shows up again) or (b) her stepfather (as she
claimed at one point, and which would explain why she hated him so
much) is open to debate. Then there's Jason, the kid who is (kinda
sorta) Matt's “other boyfriend”, who falsely accuses Bill
publicly of having molested him when he was a student at Bill's
school a few years ago, and who subsequently gets involved with Matt
and Deedee . (This is when Bill becomes acquainted with the
paparazzi.) This brings in the involvement of Carl (Lyle Lovett),
the local sheriff who is Bill's friend and who holds a torch for
Lucia. He follows Bill & Lucia on the cross-country trips they
take to try to clear Bill's name and get Tom's ashes back. And that
ties in with a shooting, which leads to...
Well, as I said: Plot heavy.
But that's okay, because it's not just
plot for plot's sake. It all serves as a backdrop and excuse for the
interaction of the characters, which is both hilarious and
fascinating. For example, we quickly learn that Bill, if not
absolutely the nicest and calmest guy in the world, must be at least
in the top 99th percentile. He possesses the sort of nearly
unflappable calm that comes from having lived through hell – the
love of his life's death – and knowing, of any trials that may come
afterward, that “this too shall pass”. And he has a sense of
humor, which we first see when he deals with a high school kid
writing some stuff about him on the bathroom wall. But Donovan's
portrayal of him never comes across as bland, as it easily could with
a lesser actor; he's certainly able to play Bill mad or fed up. For
example, when Bill gives Matt a well-deserved “F*ck you” after
Matt spouts some nonsense about how he's going to have a “normal
life” with Deedee and the baby, we start learning that Bill's
composure is not absolute. Nor is Bill the most self-knowledgeable
of individuals; he has a fair amount of denial regarding his
relationship with Matt (mentioned below). Still, Bill is a
fundamentally decent, smart, funny guy of the sort I'd like to know
in real life. And it is largely Donovan's portrayal that makes him
so likable.
Perhaps slightly less likable but even
more enjoyable as a character – in fact, my favorite character –
is Lisa Kudrow's Lucia. (She decided at a young age that it was
pronounced “Lu'-sha”, similar to her older sisters Marcia and
Tricia, not “Lu-Chee'-a”, as her parents had intended.) When the
story starts, Lucia is a perpetually-worried, spinsterly figure who
is as cynical in her own way as Deedee. (Though not at all as
manipulative.) She loves Bill like the brother-in-law he is, and is
quick to point out how poorly most others act, and how suspect their
motivations are, in comparison. She has been so disappointed by
people (and so lonely) for so long that her sadness is almost
palpable. (I say sadness rather than bitterness, for she is not
generally nasty. Though she definitely is not above irony and biting
sarcasm when she thinks they are deserved, as with the great line,
“This is how we do things on the planet Maturia. We have much to
teach you.”) It was impressive to see Kudrow portray a personality
so different from her “Friends” role of Phoebe, and fun to see
her do so well with it. (By the time the story concludes, Lucia's
perspective on people and relationships has changed perhaps more than
any other character's. And I found that to be one of the most
emotionally satisfying aspects of a film chock-full of emotionally
satisfying resolutions.)
And then there's Deedee, a person who,
if judged by her actions alone, would be almost completely unlikable.
Fortunately, we have Ricci's portrayal to watch, which drops hints –
in a look here and a tone of voice there – that maybe we shouldn't
dislike her as much as we're tempted to. And we have her
self-revealing narration throughout, which combines cleverness and
cluelessness in a way that left me grinning even when it was (at
least “officially”) offensive. I guess if she were much older
than sixteen, the crap she pulls throughout the film would be
unforgivable, even by someone as ready to forgive as Bill. But as it
is...well, judge for yourself.
More than with anything anyone does in
the film, it is with what they say to each other (and, through
Deedee's narration, to the audience) that writer/director Don Roos
gives us his ruminations on the nature of relationships:
We hear Lucia's proclamation that she
just doesn't understand sex and why we spend so much time chasing it.
A nice, relaxing shampoo, or a really good back rub, she could
understand. But sex is just “a lot of trouble for not much”.
“And what's so great about fluids?”, she asks. “It's like,
'Hi, I'd like to blow my nose on your face.' You wouldn't like that,
would you?”
We hear Carl's theory that the primary
purpose of sex may be neither procreation nor recreation, but
concentration, to focus us on that one person we're with. Because,
“otherwise, there are just too many people in the world.”
We hear Matt's (surprisingly
insightful) take on being Bill's boyfriend: Bill wanted what they
had to be not merely sexual, but something “mental or spiritual or
whatever”, as it was with Tom. But Matt's aware that his mind is
not his best feature, so if Bill wants him for his mind then not only
does Bill have a fool for a boyfriend, “so do I”.
And we hear Deedee's perspective – on
which the film's title is based – that sex is inherently messy and
leads to more messiness, i.e., relationships, which is why she wants
“the opposite of sex”: Independence and self-determination
(ignoring the loneliness that can accompany such an emotionally
unencumbered life.)
...And I haven't even included some of
my favorite exchanges here. Clever, unpredictable, and at all times
human, the writing made me want to care about these people from the
beginning. But it was the excellent acting – well, Lovett's, I
guess, is... acceptable – that actually enabled me to do so. All
despite a somewhat over-the-top sequence of plot twists, complete
with a few coincidences (and a narrator) to tie them together and
clean up the messy parts.
Good editing and production values
(cinematography, sound, etc.) help round out the package, doing what
they always do when they work well: Keep from distracting us from
the important things. And make no mistake, it's the important things
that this movie is about. Not just sex, but everything that goes
with it: Kids, and family, and warmth, and fun, and worry, and
disease, and sacrifice, and... relationships. You know, all the
really messy stuff.
The film is rated R, presumably for
language, mature themes, and some mild depictions of sex. DVD extras
include deleted scenes and director's commentary.