Those of us who are of a certain age
may remember the time when we watched gay-themed movies not because
we expected them to be good but simply because we wanted to see our
lives represented in some way on-screen (other than in porn). These
days, beside a growing number of "mainstream" films and the
occasional gay blockbuster such as Brokeback Mountain, we are
fortunate to have available an increasing number of nicely-written,
well-acted little independent films with decent production values.
All Over The Guy is one of these movies. (Indeed, it was the first
such film I came across, a few years ago, which I felt was good
enough to recommend to straight friends as well as gay.)
The film is a relationship comedy with
a dramatic current that builds throughout and pays off emotionally at
the end. It focuses on two gay men in their thirties, Eli (Dan
Bucatinsky) and Tom (Richard Ruccolo), and their respective best
friends, Brett (Adam Goldberg) and Jackie (Sasha Alexander), who are
straight. Jackie and Brett "force" Eli and Tom on a blind
date, partly for each man's own good and partly so they themselves
have an excuse to get together for their own flirtations. Despite a
realistically -- and painfully -- lackluster first date,
circumstances and the machinations of their friends have the cute if
vaguely nebishy Eli and the hunky but commitment-phobic Tom
eventually forming a couple...sort of.
It's the "sort of" that
comprises the crux of the film, giving it both its familiarity and
its relevance -- especially to those of us who are "of a certain
age". The on-again, off-again nature of Eli's and Tom's
fling/courtship/friendship/whatever-it-is may appear at first to
spring from their differing views of commitment: What it is, what
it's worth, and how likely each of them is to find it. (Eli wants
it, even -- or perhaps especially -- the mundane parts, while Tom
completely dismisses the idea of "finding someone", opting
instead to "just have fun".) But we ultimately see that,
as is often the case, those views spring more from each character’s
personality -- and the personal histories that gave rise to them --
than from any great philosophical principles.
Eli may at first appear the more
obviously neurotic of the two, as evidenced by his constant nervous
energy, his tendency to over-analyze every situation, and his
apparent eagerness to declare himself unattractive. These traits
aren't surprising, having had two well-meaning but overly
touchy-feely psychologists as parents. But we eventually see that
Tom's commitment- and self-esteem-related issues run far deeper,
springing as they do from his parents' alcoholism and disfunctional
marriage. (Tom's own alcoholism, established and discussed from the
first scene of the movie, is but the tip of his iceberg.)
Though the movie was written and
produced by Bucatinsky, the story is far from overly-focused on his
own character. It's true that Eli is the everyman with whom we
identify, and for whom we root. But it is Ruccolo's Tom who receives
the most in-depth psychological treatment and who experiences the
greatest emotional growth. What darkness there is in the film comes
from him, and the problems he brings to the mix are what keep the
story moving forward.
I cannot discuss the final resolution
of Eli's and Tom's story without "giving everything away",
so I'll simply say that I found it satisfying, believable, and
surprisingly dramatic without being maudlin. What makes it succeed
so well is a combination of powerful yet believable writing with
terrific performances by Bucatinsky and Ruccolo, both of whom evince
tremendous emotion without making it seem "acted".
Perhaps the most successful aspect of
the film's character-driven drama is the fact that it never
overpowers or detracts from the film's humor, but simply complements
it. This is a comedy, after all, and one which succeeds very well on
that level. Without getting into a "blow-by-blow"
recounting of the movie's humor, suffice it to say that it is mostly
of the type that keeps you gently smiling and chuckling at the
humanity of its characters' foibles, rather than guffawing out loud
at the inanity of their antics. A smattering of well-placed
exceptions exist, however, including Andrea Martin's wonderfully
over-the-top portrayal of Eli's mother. (The entire "Feel
Wheel" flashback will remain a pleasant memory for a long
time...!)
Strong performances by Goldberg and
Mitchell make the characters of Brett and Jackie enjoyably kooky
without sacrificing their believability either as a couple or as
Eli's and Tom's respective best friends. This, coupled with
significant screen time dedicated to their relationship, raises Brett
and Jackie well above the level of mere "supporting characters".
Though Eli and Tom are still the primary focus of the story, one
could easily envision an enjoyable story centered around these two,
as well.
Christina Ricci and Doris Roberts make
brief appearances throughout the film, and Lisa Kudrow puts in a
single-scene cameo. Though none of their characters are absolutely
crucial to the story being told -- especially Kudrow's -- their
presence in the film enjoyably fleshes out the world in which Eli,
Tom, Brett, and Jackie live. As well as confirming that we, the
audience, were right to start caring about these funny, slightly
off-balance, imperfect but well-intentioned individuals in the first
place. (And Robert's time on-screen, in particular, helps ground the
story's theme of love and commitment, reminding us of what these
things mean while simultaneously preventing us from getting too
high-minded about them.)
To the excellent writing and acting add
solid direction which doesn't draw attention to itself and brisk,
transparent editing, and the result is a film which, though small in
scope and budget, is far more enjoyable and worthwhile than many
"big" productions.
Rated R for Strong Sexual Content and
Language.
The DVD "extras" include a
Production Commentary, Deleted Scenes, and Interviews.