Wedding cakes with same sex toppers, and rainbow pride colored wedding-related anythings are moving fast as the big day quickly approaches in California. Officials have said gay weddings may commence as early as June 16th. That's Monday. Don't panic, there's still time to quickly snag a passing hottie, board a plane and marry in the Golden State.

It's not quite that simple, is it? California is set to become the second state to allow gay marriage, but the first without a residency requirement. And for those out-of-state couples opting to marry there, they are certain to return home to face sobering challenges. Only New York and Rhode Island have announced they will recognize a valid gay marriage license performed elsewhere (yet, neither offers gay marriage equality). To make matters worse, any gay marriage in the US is not recognized by the federal government.

Challenges aside, what a joy to know that love won this round. To put a face on that love, San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom plans to officiate the first wedding on June 16th The couple, Del Martin and Phyllis Lyons, have shared their lives for over five decades. They were plaintiffs in the California Supreme Court decision.

Here they are after their first marriage, which was invalidated by the state.

Yet, while California remains one of the prizes in the nation – more gays call it home than any other state – the political stakes in the state and for the nation remain high. Conservatives understand the influence that the state holds over the rest of the nation – as California goes, so does the nation. A voter-led referendum that alters the State's constitution to ban gay marriage is set to appear on the ballot this November. Conservatives see California's ban as the must-win battle that will draw Republican voters to the polls in the November presidential election. “People feel like this California fight is for all the marbles,” Dr. Richard Land, president of the Southern Baptist Convention's Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, recently told the Reuters news agency. “If California rejects their Supreme Court and changes their constitution, that's going to be huge ... if we win California we have a chance of winning this nationwide.”

The contest over the referendum is already set to become one of the most expensive yet as groups worldwide - on both sides - have pledged their support. It will be a pitched battle for what Jennifer C. Pizer says is a useless ban. Pizer, Senior Counsel for Lambda Legal – a GLBT civil rights legal group – and co-counsel for the California Supreme Court decision, said that the bans accomplish nothing positive while creating real hardships on gay and lesbian families. “...these statewide rules... deny them [gay couples] really basic legal protections without helping anyone, without accomplishing any positive purpose whatsoever,” she recently told CEO Charlotte Robinson, who is currently producing a gay marriage documentary.

And in another part of the forest - Norway - gay marriage gets another nod.

If with all this talk of gay marriage, being gay seems to be getting easier, don't count on it. Anti-gay forces work their trickery in mysterious ways. In Gambia, where homosexuality is illegal, President Yahya Jemmeh has ordered the arrest and expulsion of homosexuals from the country, saying he would “cut off” their heads.

And in Orlando, an 'ex-gay' conference preys on unhappy gay men and lesbians. James Dobson's Love Won Out conference aims to alter homosexuality through religious means. Pro-gay group PFLAG greeted conventioneers this year with a display of parental love. Parents quietly protested the event with banners that read: “I love my gay son,” “Don't let love lose out,” and “Unconditional love.”

One parent who has unconditional love for his daughter is Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick. Katherine Patrick recently told Bay Windows, a Boston based GLBT weekly, that her father responded to her coming out with a bear hug and saying, “Well, we love you no mater what.” Father and daughter plan to march in this year's Boston Pride Parade.

And it was our own Gay Entertainment Report that brought me news of gay film festival happenings. A pair of documentaries focus on gay parenting at Newfest, New York's gay & lesbian film festival. And in Provincetown, Madonna has her directorial debut.

Walter Weeks is a writer for On Top Magazine and can be reached at The Gay Slant pops-in most Saturdays at On Top Magazine.

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