A gay couple profiled in The New York Times says their marriage was for them, not their adult children.

David Dean and Steve Lowinger discussed gay parenting in a 3-minute video released by the paper on Tuesday.

Dean was already a father co-parenting with a lesbian when he met Lowinger in 1990.

“Our family just was what it was,” Dean said. “I mean there were no gay celebrities out there having children. We were inventing this. We were making it up as we went along.”

About a year after they moved in together, the men decided to expand their family.

“Somebody had advertised a group where they would get together gay men and lesbians who wanted to have children together. And they were kind of called the 'sperm and egg mixers,'” Lowinger said with a laugh.

“In the early days it was about making a statement, saying, 'Hey just because I'm gay doesn't mean I can't have kids, too,'” Dean said.

Dean explained that they never expected to get married.

“I was always very reluctant to get married,” said Lowinger. “I felt like, you know, we've been accepted as a family, it didn't really matter. But then, I thought it would matter for us.”

“We've always been a couple with kids from the day we met. And only now are we starting to be a couple with no kids. And it's really becoming more about us as a couple,” Dean said. “We're moving into another phase of our lives and I think this helps define that for us, having marriage.” (The video is embedded on this page. Visit our video library for more videos.)

Dean and Lowinger exchanged vows at City Hall with their two sons present.