Dan Savage, co-founder of the It Gets Better Project, says it is the straight community which has redefined marriage.

The outspoken gay rights activist made his comments in a video for the UK's Out4Marriage campaign.

“One of the arguments against same-sex marriage rights is that we are seeking to redefine the institution of marriage. And that is not true. It was straight people who redefined the institution of marriage. Marriage is the legal union of two equal and autonomous individuals. Marriage can be monogamous or not, it can be for life or not, a married couple can have children or not, they can have a religious ceremony or not. Marriage is no longer a gendered institution.”

Marriage, Savage added, “is about two people in love.” Civil unions and domestic partnerships conveys to gay people that “our love is lesser than.”

“That there is something damaged and deficient about who we are, and that our love isn't the same. Isn't the same as the love of heterosexuals. And we know that that is a lie.” (The video is embedded in the right panel of this page. Visit our video library for more videos.)

Savage also referred to partner Terry Miller as his husband in Canada and boyfriend in America.